Struggling to get the results you want? This just in: It’s Not Your Fault!

Over the past couple of months I’ve had a number of really amazing conversations with some incredible coaches, doctors, physiotherapists, chiropractors, and a wide variety of my friends and colleagues in the “helping” professions. I’ve been excited about some new things I’ve been learning, and I kept getting the feeling that what I had been studying was showing up at just the right time to shed some new light on a variety of issues. It’s happened frequently enough that I now think it’s deserving of a blog post!
Sometimes getting results can feel like an uphill battle - but it shouldn't have to.

Sometimes getting results can feel like an uphill battle – but it shouldn’t have to.

What’s been guiding these interesting conversations is reflection on why some of our patients/clients/athletes tend to have so much success, while others struggle to get over certain roadblocks. Certainly there is a huge aspect of how any sort of treatment or intervention is directed – is it the right solution at the right time, applied correctly and in the right amount? That’s the usual conversation in our health, wellness, and performance industry – we get excited when we find a new exercise, a new drill, a dietary change, or a new treatment that makes an amazing change.

However, in a refreshing twist, these conversations moved beyond the typical topics, into considering what could be standing in the way of profound transformation for those who seem to continuously be struggling with similar problems.
Common to our experiences was the feeling of being occasionally baffled that what we know should be working has much less of an impact then we’d hope for. A physiotherapist friend of mine brought up a great point that unless his clients already had an engrained exercise routine in their lives, it was really tough for them to consistently apply the strategies necessary to overcome whatever injury was causing them grief. Treatment might produce great results, but consistent change between sessions was hard to see. Of course none of this is an issue for clients who can book 4-5 sessions/week – but that’s simply not feasible for most.
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As excited as we might feel about changing our lives to feel happier and healthier, making that shift comes with a whole host of challenges.

The easy Functional Movement Systems answer to the above problem would be that there needs to be better re-inforcement of whatever issue has been solved during the treatment, to upload new software so to speak. I’m also a firm believer that this is more than an approach to improving movement and performance – the concept of re-setting (cleaning house) and then re-inforcing a new pattern is really the process of replacing anything old with an upgraded version – be that a habit, thought, action, diet, movement, etc. I’m fully on board with that logic, but as our conversations were revealing, it’s often not quite that cut and dry – there is the overarching and often overlooked concept of adherence, compliance, application, follow through, whatever you want to call it – basically doing the thing that we know will help. 

Framed in this way, the whole concept of achieving great results with clients is then no longer solely a question of the best solution, the best information. No matter how perfect the exercise, the diet, the mental strategy, or the lifestyle change, none of it matters if the client can’t apply it.
It can be easy to fall back on off-loading responsibility to the client, shaking a finger and reinforcing what they already know “you really need to do this”. The problem is that this doesn’t really work that well. If it worked, people wouldn’t still have problems. We now have access to SO much information about how to solve any problem. From anything from rehabbing from an ACL tear to reversing auto-immune diseases, you can Google it and get an endless supply of “10 things to do that will change your life!”. I’ve even written some of those articles!

However, with the advent of this information age, people know a lot more (or have access to more information), but not much has changed. As a society we’re more overweight, run down, stressed out, and injured than ever. So what’s missing, why doesn’t better information translate into better health?

I’d like to argue that it comes down to Habit Change.Habits Concept Metal Letterpress Word in Drawer
Transforming your habitual actions and thoughts to ones that give you the results you want, and making them last.
It’s really easy to want to do something, to have the best of intentions, but actually sticking it out is the bain of modern society’s existence.
  • How successful are New Years resolutions?
  • How many dieters drop the weight for good?
  • How many times do we not do something that we know is good for us?
  • Have you ever spent hours reading articles on a health topic only to apply none of it because you’re more confused at the end than when you started? I know I’ve been there. 
I for one see many of my clients struggle with changing their habits, getting derailed from building the life they long for and falling back to the patterns that keep them stuck where they are. So about a year ago I got fed up with that – not with my clients, with myself. Clearly I can’t be ok with getting amazing results with people who are totally motivated to do the work and create change, but ignoring those who can’t easily carve out the time, motivation, or energy to do what needs to be done. That would be a high form of negligence on my part, and unfortunately it took me a while to get to that realization.
Constantly struggling with will power to stick to a change you want to make? That's a tough game - there's a better way.

Constantly struggling with will power to stick to a change you want to make? That’s a tough game – there’s a better way.

Creating sustainable change isn’t on the client – it’s on me. 

When I woke up to the fact that I didn’t have the skills necessary to help my clients make the sometimes very profound transformations that their lives were begging for, I hit the books. This last year has been an eye-opening experience of studying a wide variety of coaching techniques specifically addressing habit change. What I found was amazing.

I am by no means one of the first people to ask this question – there’s lots of life coaching out there and tons of Tony Robbins-esque programs to change your beliefs, transform your life, etc. What I found was a MUCH more specific answer to my question of how to help my clients adopt the habits that allow them to reclaim their health. These answers came from a field I didn’t know really existed, called Health Coaching. Now if you know me at all, your immediate reaction was likely “wow that’s right up your alley!”
Yep, bang on.
So for the past 12 months I’ve been nerding out on some incredible perspectives around how to help people create new habits that actually stick, rapidly accelerating their progress in health or performance by gradually replacing the draining and negative with the nourishing and positive.
This transcends the outdated model of simply providing information and trusting that someone will apply it – we know better than that now!

Slowly my work with my clients has changed as well, and I’m staggeringly grateful that I was able to find such pertinent information and training on how to help those who work with me see much faster results that stick for good. One of the most astonishing parts of these new coaching strategies is how much change occurs that neither me nor the client were bargaining for!

I’ve learned how much more effective I can be as a coach when I use all of my knowledge about how to fix you as ONLY a framework, and allow you to guide the process to make changes on a much deeper level than just adding a bear crawl or a green smoothie to your daily routine. What consistently happens is that upon really diving into the process of self-observation and getting to know what makes you tick, the surface behaviours start to spontaneously transform and support the new, healthier, happier, all-star version of yourself. This allows your primary issue to melt away with much less effort than simply struggling with motivation and will power every day. Change becomes easy, exciting.

In the next couple of weeks you’ll see some new offerings from me, improving upon my existing personalized and holistic approaches to health and performance and weaving in new formats guaranteed to produce stellar results. I couldn’t be more excited.
beautiful girl enjoying the summer sun

Taking a holistic approach to creating lasting habit change is the key to bringing forth the happiness and success you’ve only dared dream of!

Thank you to everyone who made it this far in the article for listening to my rant. I feel blessed to have found part of the key to cracking the code of creating profound, lasting transformation in health, wellness, and performance – and most importantly I’m grateful for the opportunity to share it and help others transcend the suffering that holds them back from their goals.

A final note to all my clients who’ve had to put up with me simply giving advice on what will help, only to be left feeling like you weren’t applying it well enough – I offer my most sincere apologies. Hang in there, things are about to get fun… 😉

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